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3 Ways To Avoid The ‘Romeo And Juliet Effect’—By A Psychologist

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Anyone who has ever had a teenager knows that defiance comes with the territory. As they establish their identity and autonomy within their families, teens are primed for a certain degree of rebellion, and their romantic relationships are no exception. Often, well-meaning parents can become public enemy number one if they disagree with a relationship.

As a parent, it’s your job to voice whether or not you feel your teen’s partner is good for them, but your disapproval can fuel unhealthy relationship choices. Sounds counterintuitive, right? This is the heart of the “Romeo and Juliet Effect,” a psychological phenomenon coined by Richard Driscoll, Keith Davis and Milton Lipetz.

In their classic study, research on 140 couples found that parental interference in their relationships only intensified feelings of love. Named after Shakespeare’s star-crossed lovers, this effect reveals how teenage relationships can become more potent when parents push back. The good news is that understanding this effect can help parents navigate their teenager’s romantic relationships more effectively.

Here are three ways to avoid the Romeo and Juliet effect when dealing with young love.

1. Allow Them To Learn From Their Mistakes

Teenage defiance is less about the relationship they’re in and more about the teenager’s need for autonomy, respect and emotional validation. Teenagers are navigating a pivotal stage in life where they yearn to make their own decisions, caught between feeling grown-up and still being guided—or restricted—by others.

This is especially true when it comes to relationships. Research published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin shows that couples in socially marginalized relationships display higher levels of commitment, but not due to higher levels of investment or relationship satisfaction. This suggests that teenagers who perceive challenges to their relationship may compensate with higher levels of commitment, even if their hearts aren’t really in it.

The shared experiences of external challenges only serve to create stronger emotional connections. If your teen feels they are fighting against outside forces, their relationship can become a protective sanctuary. In fact, parental disapproval can be interpreted as one of the most substantial challenges to a teenager’s emerging sense of self, triggering a defensive response.

However, this does not mean parents are powerless. Try not to take the fact that they’re going against your wishes personally. Rather, remember that their new-found confidence is a quest to establish a strong personal identity.

Additionally, approach their choices with empathy and curiosity. Allowing them to reflect on how their relationship dynamics make them feel—while reminding them that you’re always there for them—is more effective than a stern confrontation about “what they’re doing wrong.”

Unless it’s physically or emotionally dangerous, the best thing you can do is to allow them the dignity of their choice. Let the relationship play out, and do your best to support them along the way.

2. Be A Good Role Model

Parents deeply influence their children’s romantic choices, often without realizing it. Being cognizant of this impact can help them make better choices for themselves, and their kids.

A 2020 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships shows that a child’s experiences with their family of origin shape their future relationships. Researchers interviewed 35 young adults and found that children follow their parents’ example in relationships when they perceive them to be good role models.

However, if they are viewed as poor role models, their children feel compelled to find partners that help them to avoid replicating the unhealthy patterns they’ve seen growing up. They may also prematurely try to form a family of their own, committing to their partner at a young age, often seeking the love and affirmation they did not receive from their own families.

3. Avoid The ‘Us Against Them’ Mentality

Parenting can be frustrating, but even if you’re constantly butting heads with your child, remember that you both want the same thing—their happiness.

Most teens feel like they’re not being heard when trying to get their point across to their parents, which can be demoralizing. A 2021 study even suggests that positive parent-teen communication is associated with lower rates of teenage depression. So, whether you agree with their relationship or not, communicate with them in a way that shows them they can always talk to you.

For instance, rather than asking questions like “Why are you even with this person?” try asking, “So, what do you enjoy about your relationship?” This approach shows curiosity rather than criticism, making teenagers more likely to open up. It also allows you to watch for any red flags that could jeopardize your child’s health.

With poor or judgmental communication, the alternative is that they will start to view their partner as the “only person that understands them.” This can be detrimental if they are in a relationship with someone who is a bad influence.

Remember, your relationship with your child needs to be nurtured for a lifetime, whether or not your teenager’s romance ends. Navigating their relationships is a delicate dance that requires patience, empathy and understanding. There are no perfect solutions, only opportunities for continuous learning, growth and adaptation.

Each interaction is a chance to build trust and strengthen your connection, so choose to embrace them rather than turn them away. Even if you both disagree, trust that you’ve set them up to make good choices, and show them that you’ll be there to catch them if they falter.

Can you come from a place of empathy for your child’s relationship choices? Take this science-backed test to find out: Affective Empathy Scale

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